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gibster
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Fri Jul 29, 2016 5:50 pm

So, at the age of 39 I've been diagnosed with Asperger's. Feeling a bit freaked out, haven't told anyone other than the wife. Decided to come back here to ask: if your mate told you he had it, what would you think?

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Fri Jul 29, 2016 6:05 pm

But it's not like you just caught it, so what's the difference?
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Fri Jul 29, 2016 6:18 pm

If a mate told me it wouldn't make much difference. Could explain things about them maybe.

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Fri Jul 29, 2016 6:21 pm

"Oh Em Gee, i'm not normal".
Where normal is giving the expected predefined yes/no answers to an institution whose view of normality doesn't represent fact.
Please. Do yourself a favour, tell everyone and belittle the whole diagnosis, it's not like it's debilitating. It's you. Be cool with that.
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Fri Jul 29, 2016 7:09 pm

Have to say i was kinda relieved when i read that it was aspergers.. not that it isnt serious but i thought you were dying or something! Thank God

Anyway if a friend told me I dont think it'd change my opinion much.. once you're ok thats all that matters
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Fri Jul 29, 2016 7:15 pm

It won't make a difference to anyone, unless you're worried about work? You're a teacher aren't you?
Obviously you don't have an issue with communication or you would have had issues in any job regardless.
Unless you feel it impacts you, I don't think you need to announce it to the world, but definitely tell family and friends over drinks. Honestly, they won't care (in a good way)

Does this mean you have potential rain man skills?

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Fri Jul 29, 2016 7:17 pm

Zook wrote:Have to say i was kinda relieved when i read that it was aspergers.. not that it isnt serious but i thought you were dying or something! Thank God
Yeah I thought bad shit too. I'm in that frame of mind though.

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Fri Jul 29, 2016 9:58 pm

Yeah I thought it was gonna be the big C. Kinda like everyone else said, it's not something you just caught so nothing is gonna change in your day to day life is it? No need to be ashamed in any way shape or form to tell anyone and if your mates react a bit oddly you probably won't even notice anyway :)

Seriously though if a mate told me they had it I'd just go "ohhhh so that's why" or something stupid like that and make a laugh out of it and think no more of it. Your mates are people you like, so your mates like you and it won't matter a fuck to them. Just think of how you'd react if a mate told you the same thing and there you go.

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Fri Jul 29, 2016 10:50 pm

gibster wrote:So, at the age of 39 I've been diagnosed with Asperger's. Feeling a bit freaked out, haven't told anyone other than the wife. Decided to come back here to ask: if your mate told you he had it, what would you think?
You're the same person you always have been. Zero has changed.

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Sat Jul 30, 2016 10:07 am

Wouldn't make any difference in our relationship at all

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Sat Jul 30, 2016 8:43 pm

Thanks for the encouragement. Life goes on.

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Sun Jul 31, 2016 2:43 pm

you're friends are friends with you because of who you are, a diagnosis of any sort doesnt change that

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Mon Aug 01, 2016 8:00 am

If you're only getting diagnosed at 39, it's evidently not prohibitively severe.
Don't think your friends and family will give a fuck.

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Mon Aug 01, 2016 10:02 am

Biggy Shackleton wrote:
gibster wrote:So, at the age of 39 I've been diagnosed with Asperger's. Feeling a bit freaked out, haven't told anyone other than the wife. Decided to come back here to ask: if your mate told you he had it, what would you think?
You're the same person you always have been. Zero has changed.
Same ^ If you hadn't been diagnosed, you wouldn't notice anything different if you think about it

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Mon Aug 01, 2016 1:28 pm

Hey Gibster, I'd like to echo all the above, won't make a lick of difference to your family and friends, nothing has changed.

I imagine the benefit of a diagnosis at this stage would be that you can make the best of the aspects of your personality/skills that you have and potentially work on the ones you find challenging.

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Mon Aug 01, 2016 1:59 pm

But do you still love a good old full body stocking?




(Diagnosis would be a "oh ok, cool" moment to me.)

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