I think it was a drunken kiss and they decided never to do it again for my sake.
It was weird cuz it was the ex that told me and she was pretty much in tears over it.

I'd basically agree with Eucrid in here, total case by case basis. I made the BIG mistake of scoring a guy from college who my friend fancied, but had never scored or done anything with...and she never forgave it. mad sh*t indeed ! it was a bit of a dick move on my behalf but fucking hell I'd no idea she would feel that badly over it - I was locked for godsake, that should get you out of anything !

i've hooked up with a bunch of my friends ex's and there has never been a problem with it.

one friend was going out with her for a bit, broke up and a while later me and her hooked up. i don't know it at the time but they were hooking up when they were broken up until about a 2 weeks before me and her hooked up. we ended up going out for 2 years.

I'm getting with this girl at the moment that my friend shifted a few times 2 years back. They never went out or anything, but I still am feeling a bit guilty about it, he almost entered stalker territory for a while. Thing is though, me and this girl have liked each other for ages, its just that I've had 2 longterm girlfriends in the space of time I've known her. How do I rate on the asshole friend scale?

In terms of ex's, I really could not care less if any of my friends got with them. The last 2 girls I've broken up with the break-ups went so badly I half-wanted someone to get with them and make me feel less guilty about moving on.

You're fine, a few shifts doesn't count.

Replace "2 longterm girlfriends" with "1 longterm girlfriend" and this is the exact situation I was in when I was getting with my missus.

My mate didn't give a f*ck.

depends on their relationship

if your mate didnt give a sh*t about them like, it's fair game, but if they were still into them it's a no go

unless someone is recently heartbroken over someone its all fair game imo

Id be fairly pissed off if a mate got with my ex that i went with for years.
Id be close to getting into a row id say

The one i was with for a few months, i dunno. id say id be annoyed initially but would deal with it.

A friend of mine hooked up with a girl i liked (alot) but he got in there before me. Fair game.
They're going out now and we're still friends but it wasn't easy.

Haven't read the thread, but I'd be furious if one of my mates did this

more than enough girls out there that you don't have to score a mates ex

within reason

if they were with them for years or whatever, but were with someone new themselves a fair while and were happy then yeah, id agree everything would be fair game

if they're still single and bitter about it though, you'd have to avoid

sure if yer not gonna be with them then why shouldn't they get together. that's the way i see it anyway!

usually because if your mate is gonna be with a bird you're gonna have some form of regular contact with her

depends if you're gonna have to see and interact with them all the time too

and how he treats you after

depends

generally a no no in my book, unless you ask the friend first?